**Winner of Author of The Year at The Butterfly (Baby Loss) Awards** For all parents and family managing the emotional battlefield of baby loss. When my baby died my whole world changed forever. I was left full of love, yet deeply heartbroken and faced with the task of living without my most precious longed for treasure. Following a fraught journey of trying to conceive again, two subsequent miscarriages, and an anxiety fuelled pregnancy after loss, I was finally able to welcome my baby girl into the world. This is the book I wish I’d been given – it will help you to not only survive the loss of your baby but to celebrate the life they had, no matter how brief. This is my hard won gift to you. Losing a child is one of the most devastating events you can go through and yet, losing your baby – particularly before they are born – remains a taboo and often misunderstood topic. In this very gentle guide, Nicola Gaskin opens up the conversation around baby loss offering raw, honest and deeply empathetic support to all parents. From coping with the initial shock, finding ways to overcome jealousy and anger, surviving birthdays and Mother’s Day, through to living with everlasting grief and the fresh round of grief and anxiety that comes with parenting after loss, it will help you to navigate through a huge range of intense and complex emotions. Beautifully written and powerfully illustrated, this book will hold your hand through your darkest and lightest moments: read it to know you are not alone and that all your feelings are absolutely valid.
As a practising midwife and a mother who has lost four babies at various stages of pregnancy, including a stillbirth, Nicola Miller-Clendon is well qualified to write this book. Pregnancy loss is more common than we think. For the 57,000 babies born live each year in New Zealand another 15,000 babies are not, often leaving women and their partners bereft and faced with uncertainty. Yet there has always been a code of silence around pregnancy loss. This is the first generation of women who are beginning to talk about their losses and seek answers. This book has been written to provide the support that is often hard to find and to answer the many questions, emotional and medical, that these women have. Beginning with recovery and grieving, there are also chapters on children and loss and guidelines for family and friends. Believing that the loss of a baby at whatever stage of pregnancy should be acknowledged, Nicola offers many suggestions of different ways a family could choose to remember their baby. In a chapter entitled Men Lose Babies, Too, Nicola addresses the often very different ways men and women may handle their loss. A subsequent pregnancy after the loss of a baby can be an anxious time with many questions unique to this experience. Nicola takes the reader through each trimester, addressing these anxieties with both emotional support and medical information. An extensive resource section lists agencies and specialists for those who need further assistance and guidance. Nicola Miller-Clendon holds a Bachelor in Health Science, is currently studying towards her Masters and is a practising midwife and childbirth educator. She is the mother of five living children as well as four babies lost at various stages of pregnancy, including a stillborn son. Her two previously published books are The User's Guide to the New Zealand Baby and The User's Guide to the New Zealand Pregnancy.
There is no way to begin without telling you the saddest part of the story. It's a love story, and it begins with a positive pregnancy test. But, it doesn't end with a baby."Everything was right on schedule in Brooke Taylor's meticulously planned world. She had checked off every box-the husband, the house, the dogs, the graduate degree, the (modest) savings account-and now, positive pregnancy test in hand, she had checked the most anticipated box of all. As a young couple with every dream seemingly within their grasp, the potential for looming tragedy wasn't even on their radar. The death of a child? That was an unfathomable abstraction, a terrible tragedy that could only happen to someone else.And then, in one fateful moment, the unimaginable became their reality.After 34 weeks of a textbook, uneventful pregnancy while expecting their first daughter, Eliza, in 2010, Brooke and her husband David were shocked when she went into labor weeks before her due date-and then absolutely blindsided when they arrived at the hospital only to be told that their beloved "Baby Duck" no longer had a heartbeat. This is the story of what comes next: of learning to live with a broken heart that keeps on beating, of picking up the pieces amidst the devastation of earth-shattering grief, and of finding a way to love life again-even when nothing goes according to plan. This is the story of surviving the death of a child, navigating the complexities of life after pregnancy loss, and discovering that grief can somehow become a part of our life without overtaking it completely.Unimaginable: Life after baby loss examines what it means to be a parent bereaved through stillbirth, and traces one mother's path back to a hopeful life.
The loss of a baby, however it occurs, can be heartbreaking and painful and leave parents in need of support as they grieve. While awareness about baby loss is increasing, the suffering and sadness, isolation and loneliness parents feel is often invisible and it can be hard for them to reach out, and for those around them to know how best to support them. Why Baby Loss Matters explores what happens when families experience baby loss or the end of a pregnancy, drawing on the first-hand experiences of parents who have navigated life and the fourth trimester without their baby, and the vital work of charities and services which offer support. By examining different approaches to coping with the loss of a baby and keeping memories alive, the book offers insight into the ways that families have found the support and peace that they need to continue living after saying goodbye.
When your baby dies, you find yourself in a life you never expected. And even though pregnancy and infant loss is common, it's not common to you. Instead, you feel like a stranger in your own body, surrounded by well-meaning people who often don't know how to support you. What you need during this time is not a book offering easy answers. You need a safe place to help you navigate tough issues, such as · coping with a postpartum body without a baby in your arms · facing social isolation and grief invalidation · having faith when you feel let down by God · dealing with the overwhelming process of making everyday decisions · learning to move forward after loss, and · creating a legacy for your child In Unexpecting, bereaved mom Rachel Lewis is the friend you never hoped to need, walking you through the unique grief of baby loss. When nothing about life after loss makes sense . . . this book will.
It's normal to feel shocked, grief, depression, guilt, anger, and a sense of failure and vulnerability when you lose a pregnancy. Losing a baby is something you never forget. Whether you had your miscarriage recently or many years ago, unresolved issues and feelings around it can weigh heavily in your life. Written by a holistic therapist, this book will help you to: ◆Discover how to care for yourself and your loved ones after baby loss. ◆Understand your coping strategies and how to move forward ◆Receive the assurance and guidance you need to feel normal again ◆Having experienced two miscarriages herself, the author knows the lingering sadness and grief of pregnancy loss. This book is an informative and inspirational guide that will support you on your healing journey after losing a baby and help you find the acceptance and hope you need.
My Life of Loss is a story about a mothers personal experience with miscarriage and stillbirth. This very intimate biography takes you on a journey of grief and happiness after dreams of having a family finally come true. My Life of Loss was written to promote awareness of child loss during pregnancy and to give hope and comfort to those with similar experiences.